My parents were good people ….My Dad worked hard , the best way he could. My Mother had a lot of common sense but seemed to be stifled, perhaps by the depression coming from seeing my Brother deteriorate through the years, some emotional problems they had no idea how to treat…Ben lived away often in a hospital or home it was extremely painful for me & somewhere along the line I closed it out since I couldn’t help.. My parents weren’t wordily and did the best they could. I did not get my work ethic from my Mother…My aunt Addi had alot of money and knew the finer things in life, I watched and learned that from an early age., but it was my Aunt Mae who paved the way for me to do everything I could, in my lifetime Aunt Mae reinvented herself numerous time in numerous business’s all successful & Aunt Mae who I loved and admired dearly, showed me that I could also reinvent my self! She encouraged me and loved me and I was so proud of her. My mother was Generous to all and My Dad was literally the “Sweetest man in the world”. Zachary is really like my Dad carries my dads name. Zach wrote his Bar Mitzvah speech about the responsibility of carrying the name “Emmanuel” and clearly understands those attributes’ . I am proud to say Jacob reflects my parents kindness and sweetness…
My cousins on my Mothers side have always been like siblings to me and treated my like I was “one of them” thereby forfilling the sibling I would never have. We had and have wonderful times and they are ones I am most grateful for in my life. My dads side were a cooler bunch though eventually we became close to my Fathers sisters Daughter and son-in-law, who we loved and who left us early Marv at 83 Muriel with a form of dementa.
My bother has lived in a nursing home since 2004. Miles is wonderful about seeing him which we did every two weeks, until we went to Florida. He is the kindest nicest person and always appreciate whenever we come. Lauren Mike and Allison have been very good to him. Jacob and Zachary don’t know him only of him and pictures. Since My brother lives in a home for emotional and mental problems I never wanted to expose them to that sadness and for children the creepiness’. We tried to bring my brother to Lauren and Mikes when the boys were younger but he always backed out at the last minute. I never brought too many pictures a I was fearful someone there would cause a problem. Ben was very talented, he could sing he did wonderful art work and wrote poems, while always sure he was going to Broadway! He is always smiling and a favorite of everyone there!
****I want to say my parents and my mother-in-law, though we never referred to her that way, were all good smart wonderful people( my father-in law passed away 9 months before were were married) . Inspite of coming from totally different places they DECIDED to make it work! This gave us all the very best chance for happiness independently and together. Even Gingers parents were included and at the end only My dad and Gingers mother were here. Dad in DelRay and Mary in Sarasota, talked every Sunday two people from diverse backgrounds forged their friendship. This CAME ABOUT for a most important reason…THEY ALL STAYED “WITH THEIR OWN”, NOT RELIGOUS-WISE BUT MORE IMPORTANT, VALUE-WISE! They counted how they were alike not how they were different.
